It happens to every married couple at some point in their relationship. There are no more moonlit walks on the beach, no more candlelight dinners, no more whispered sweet nothings in the ear. The flame seems to have dwindled down to a few small embers which are in desperate need of being prodded.
According to an article on Yahoo.com, “Everybody hits a point where relationships become mundane and boring.” Each day starts with a quick morning of getting ready and going to work. Maybe there is a quick kiss before heading out the door. After work there may be some small talk over a quickly made dinner then it may off to sit in front of the TV or to do some work at home on the computer.
Throw in a child or two and time together alone as a couple dwindles down to almost nothing. This is the normal everyday routine for many American couples. The major problem with normalcy is that it can lead to a stale relationship if both husband and wife are not careful. A couple must work through normalcy and seek to strengthen their relationship. This will require a lot of time and effort but nothing good comes without a lot of work.
Woman seem to grasp the concept of trying to work at keeping the relationship going. According to Kim Oliver, “women appear to be more invested in their relationships,” and can sense problems in the relationship long before men.
Men at times seem totally confused by the whole concept of working to keep a marriage strong. A lot of men have the idea that if a marriage doesn’t feel like it’s broke, then why worry about fixing it. Marriage however is a relationship which needs to be invested in day by day. Here are four steps tips help men become better husbands which will hopefully give them better wives.
Step 1. Don’t forget to communicate.
Step 2. Commit to strengthening the relationship.
Step 3. Remember your vows where two become one.
Step 4. Savor your mate in mind, body and soul.
Don’t forget to communicate.
Listening involves three steps, hearing, eye contacts and asking questions. Starring at the TV and nodding the head once in a while is not listening. To keep a relationship healthy the first step is good communication.
Commit to strengthening the relationship
Don’t forget to continue the little things which caused the sparks to fly in the first place. Go on romantic dates, Sneak away to the motel. Have nights alone without the children. Do whatever it takes to keep the fires burning. The next step to a healthy relationship is to always keep it fresh.
Remember your vows where two become one.
Above all always, love, honor and cherish a mate. When the seeds of discontent get planted they can grow and destroy a marriage. The third step to a healthy relationship is to make sure and keep the relationship truthful and to close till the very end.
Savor your mate in mind, body and soul
Marriage is not an excuse to become overweight, out of touch or less soulful for your mate. Marriage is a time to remember what drew two people together in the first place and move on from there. The final step in a healthy marriage is to always keep the spark of romance and desire lit by keeping fit for for each other.