I think we’ve all been there. You feel stuck in a rut, ashamed of your body and overall dissatisfied with life. Maybe you break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, eat way too many cookies at a picnic or feel dragged down by the size of your thighs.
It’s easy to pick apart everything that is wrong with you when you are in a vulnerable state of being. First it’s your weight, then it’s your stomach flab and before you know it, even your hair is weighing you down.
I had a chance to talk to the “body confidence coach,” Alison Leipzig about what it takes to truly love your body even when your mind hates it. Loving your body is a step to overall emotional and mental health and can even help shift your weight and give you a new perception about your body.
Leipzig is no stranger to the “body hate” syndrome we find ourselves in. At one point, she had a really hard time accepting her body and loving it for what it was. She thought if she lost more weight, fit in certain clothes or looked a certain way, then she would finally be happy. She soon realized this was actually causing her to weigh more—emotionally and physically. She realized she had to love her body now and appreciate it now in order to truly find happiness.
Here are Leipzig’s sure-fire ways to love your body now (even if you feel you can’t):
1. “Get really honest about yourself.” Figure out the things you don’t like about yourself. Ask yourself what stories you keep playing in your head. As Leipzig says, “Sometimes you need to sit in the shit to get out of it.” Acknowledgement and honesty is the first step to body love.
2. “Connect what you want to change and get better.” Connect with what you want to change about they way you treat your body. Even if you can’t connect to it specifically, connect to the desire you want to feel. This will help you understand yourself and your body more. Knowing this will help you make changes and shift your perception.
3. “If you can’t see it—think about what others say about you.” Leipzig suggests asking your best friend what he or she loves about you. Then you can challenge yourself to say those same nice things about yourself. Overtime, you will eventually believe and feel the love from not just others, but ultimately yourself.
4. “Love yourself in the moment.” Loving yourself doesn’t have to be glamorous. Leipzig admitted that loving herself sometimes meant letting herself be in a rut and watch episodes of ‘the Kardashians’ on repeat. Ask yourself, “How can I love myself more in this moment?” Finding even the littlest things that make you feel good each moment can change your entire course of the day.
For more about Alison or to download her free “3 days to better body confidence” guide, visit www.alisonleipzig.com.