Social networking isn’t ruining relationships. It’s the propensity to over-share that made things complicated. With social networking applications among the most downloaded and frequently used applications, people are sharing every facet of their life with both associates and strangers alike. The privacy in relationships has been degraded. In many cases, people can tell based on tweets or Facebook statuses when your relationship is at its strongest and when it’s hanging on by a thread.
Following your significant other on Twitter or friending them on Facebook can be toxic to your real life interactions. Check out a handful of reasons why you 2 should keep some virtual space between you
5) Dealing with evidence of past loves
Facebook has been opened to the public since the mid 2000s. There’s a high likelihood that your significant other’s photo albums are littered with evidence that they’ve been in love before you. There’s also a chance that they’re still virtually connected to their exes without being actual friends. Nobody wants to be reminded of “remember when…”.
4) The Thirst
If you’re dating someone unanimously attractive, people are going to have no respect online. For guys especially, the anonymity allows a false sense of comfort to say whatever they want to say about that sexy new bathing suit picture that you took of your girl. It’s flattering the 1st few times. But as her significant other, having to deal with it on every single picture she posts? No thanks.
3) They might turn you off
The great thing about Twitter is it’s a person’s spontaneous thoughts. Most people enjoy the free form that Twitter fosters among strangers. However, eventually, your significant other may become too open. Maybe he’s tweeting something uber-personal about himself that he hasn’t shared with you. Or maybe she unwittingly shows how unintelligent she is about an important issue. I’ve seen it happen where social networking will show a person’s true colors and you’re suddenly turned off by them (ahem, Stacey Dash). In a relationship, that can really ruin the whole appeal of being with that person.
2) The audience isn’t always rooting for your happiness
While you shouldn’t have to hide your relationship, there’s a certain guard that should remain up. It shouldn’t be so easy for people, especially strangers or people you barely associate with, to plot your relationship on a timeline. It’s sweet to let everyone know your babe sent you flowers for your birthday or that you guys ziplined in Costa Rica. But when you’re accustomed to sharing so much of the good times, sharing the bad times will be instinctive. Trust me, people are waiting for you to sub-tweet jabs at each other or to take notice that you’ve stopped appearing in picture uploads for a few days.
1) Breaking up is that much harder
When your virtual life is so intertwined with your real life, the gray area is very small. For instance, say your significant other throws you a huge surprise birthday bash. Then 2 weeks later, you find out that he/she’s been cheating for 6 months. The break up in real life will be 10x as messy in your social networking lives. With social networking, people are far more willing to be vindictive because the consequences aren’t as harsh. Again you have an audience who doesn’t care about the fragile feelings. They just want to pick a side and watch the destruction. Plus it’s a hassle to delete hundreds of photos of you as a couple when you probably looked your best in them.