Do you feel depressed, not yourself, disconnected or indecisive about where your life is taking you? These can be related to not being true to yourself and living an inauthentic life. What does living authentically mean? According to Wikipedia “Authenticity is the degree to which one is true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character, despite external pressures.” Living on your terms and through your own eyes certainly makes life much easier as long as you believe and value yourself. When you try to be perfect for others all the time; you lose a little bit of you in the process. That can lead to low self-esteem, lack of self-respect and a loss of individual significance.
Do you feel pressured to appear to be someone you are not? Living a life by someone else’s rules can leave you depressed or anxious never truly knowing how to act like yourself because you don’t know who that person is. You may have a hard time making decisions because you don’t want to anger another, feel like a fool or even have no idea how to make a decision on your own.
Did you know that when things weigh heavily on your mind your body is affected too? Susan Biali M.D. makes a great point; “if you’ve been squeezing yourself into an inauthentic existence that at least partially if not totally strangles your true dream for your life.” Living authentically may be easier than one might think.
Tiny Buddha discusses these 5 rules to abide by in living an authentic life.
- Tell someone you appreciate them every day.
- Stop trying to win the Oscar.
- Get rid of the baggage.
- Stay connected with genuine friends.
Here are a few others you might want to add to your list.
- Be true to yourself.
- Spend your time with positive uplifting people who look forward to improving their lives rather than looking back through victim eyes.
- Ponder and feel what your true path or purpose in life is and then do something to pursue that reality.
How often do you say one thing just because of your so called beliefs and feel a little guilty about it? As one grows older and wiser (hopefully) you may also find your beliefs have evolved as well and that’s ok. Think about it the next time something falls out of your lips. Does it sit well with you or is it the false you talking? What does your gut tell you when you say yes to something you really don’t want to do?
Living a life of authenticity may have others telling you that you are selfish or questioning your reasoning. It’s ok to be a little selfish if it means you are being true to you. It may even be hard at first to say no. You may feel guilty and take lots of practice, but your heart will reap the benefits, your mind will start to feel like you have more control and your body will thank you too.