An alarming poll by Associated Press-WE TV reveals that two in five women under the age of 50 who do not have children would consider having a child without a spouse or partner. This is a staggering 42 percent of women under 50 willing to go solo on the “parenting thing”. Another 37 percent would consider adoption.
The poll also revealed unmarried women who have had children has risen from 31 percent in 2005 to 36 percent in 2011. To put this in perspective, approximately 1.5 million babies born in 2011 were without a traditional family structure and many were born with no male figure in their lives at all. The poll also revealed a shocking 62 percent of women between the age of 20-24 were single mothers. That is six in 10 mothers are without the strength of the traditional family structure in which to raise their child.
At this rate of decline, what is the next generation going to look like? Considering most people do not think these changes are a big problem or harmful, where will the children of the future see a traditional family?
Fast forward 20 years. With an average of 40 percent of women under 50 who are willing to go it solo, meaning having no male figure at all in their lives by having a sperm donor or adopting alone, and if the percentage stays the same in the number of young women having babies without being married, that is over 50 percent of the population. Comprehend the magnitude of that number, and make no mistake, the numbers will rise, not fall, as a usual pattern unless something changes.
So, half of the population are and will be trying to raise children without a traditional family unit. That is if it stays the same, but it most likely will increase. Can you imagine numbers as high as 75 percent? Then you have the government trying to fill in the gaps for these families advocating it by saying things like “It takes a village to raise a child” as Hillary Clinton is famous for saying. You could also get into politics and money issues, and there currently are and would be a number of woes hitting everyone in the face that no one wants to think about. We would be looking at a serious change in the way children are getting what they need emotionally.
What will the boys born into this lifestyle grow up learning? Will there be thousands of single “Big Brother” programs out there? Scary thought! An imbalance of this type is a very scary thought, but it is preventable.
With education prized at such high esteem, there is no reason for women to feel they need to go it alone. We already know there are emotional problems for children who do not have both parents present. There is always a sense of abandonment that is rarely overcome fully even after they reach adulthood.
How do we stop this dangerous thinking? First it is not bad to want to have children or to love a child who needs you such as in the case of adoption, but the longterm effects on society of devaluing the traditional family do have to be looked at. Children need their fathers. We would never think of changing the paradigm to single men raising all the children of the world, would we? Children need mothers, and that is an obvious fact.
To say they don’t need fathers is to put society on a teeter-totter with everyone on one side. Where do the men fit into a society like this? What are the negative effects on them down the line? Balance has to be aimed for, and education is a good start. Bring back the family values that most assuredly are in place that currently support many of these age 20-something women who have gone it alone. These have relied on a traditional family, and that is their families, mom and dad, grandma and grandpa to help raise their children. It’s time we pass these family values forward and stop letting them die.
What happens when the next generation is made up of singles and their only support is singles? We will have lost a stability that may never be recovered without a complete turnaround now. Support the security in marrying for life and waiting to have children until the family unit is established. Why cheat these children out of that stability if it can be avoided? The family unit has to become popular again, and the traditional family is worth fighting for.
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