Social “norms” have negatively contributed to a class of gay men who pretend to be heterosexual while they are secretly homosexual.
In Sacramento, closet gay men share that it is common for them to use women as not only a heterosexual persona, but also as their financial supporters. They find women to literally take care of them while they leave the women frustrated and confused by their erratic and inconsistent behavior.
These men live a life that is unknown to the women caring for them. Often, they stay out late at night with male love interest having sex in cars, bars or anywhere else of convenience.
The closet gay male is a social class all it’s own, they have code words and classifications amongst the group that even the men interviewed refused to share.
To the rest of the world, closet gay men are those inconsiderate guys who seem to fear intimacy and commitment. One interviewee said that he almost “came-out” to the woman who takes care of him one night when he didn’t feel like making up an argument as he usually did so that he could slam the door pretending to be angry leaving her to assume that he was going to hang out with his “buddies” to cool off from the argument he had with her.
Some of these men affirmed that they have even had children with the women who take care of them and in conversation, they strangely regarded their offspring merely as a result of their hustling of women but not as a loving product of their love for their partner.
Many of these men degrade women and view women only as financial supporters. They think it is cool to get money out of women and are applauded by peer closet gays for being able to “play” women.
Meanwhile, these guys take good care of each other. They bring their “buddies” to their home where they live with the women who takes care of them to eat and relax, referring to the men as cousin’s, brother’s, co-worker’s and friends; Sometimes they even move them in and induce a sick and twisted mind game with the women having the “buddy” hit on her.
The dangers of sexually transmitted disease is always an issue as many closet gay men do not require monogamy of their closet lovers but often have orgies and/or circulations of lovers who are “allowed” to sleep with one another. Naturally, there are some who are monogamous but the guys interviewed shared that monogamy is fairly rare and it more common for them to flip-flop between lover’s with no true preference or commitment.
Human’s are great about setting boundaries and limitations on one another but no one should ever be so consumed with social ideologies that they fear being who they truly are.
The secrecy involved with being a man on the down low has created a culture of men who use women to navigate through life while they deal with their emotions secretly. The culture crosses all classes of persons from the homeless to big time executives where only small changes are notable.
Closet gay men who make good money leave women in turmoil and can be more vicious in that they have no need to use women financially so they say more and do more of what they want with little regard for the feelings of the women they deal with because these women need them.
No matter who you are, it is perfectly okay to be you. Society is merely a place of rules that you can choose to subscribe to or you can choose not to subscribe to. In all things concerning someone else, it helps to be mindful of the emotions of others.
Suicide rates amongst men who have been “outed” are almost parallel to the rate of suicide amongst women who find out the men they have committed to our actually homosexual.
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