You may not know what the term narcissistic means but you have probably met at least one or two of these types on your dating travels in Vancouver.
Definition of Narcissism ~ Extreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one’s own talents and a craving for admiration. Excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one’s physical appearance.
If you are dating someone that is excessively talking about themselves & constantly craving acknowledgment or admiration, you are in for a one sided lonely relationship. Watch out for the red flags early on for this type of behavior! That what dating is for; to weed out the wrong people that are all about drama and to find a compatible reciprocated loving partnership.
Everyone comes into your life for a reason whether you like that cliche or not. Dating can be a stepping stone to finding out who you really are yourself. If you are attracting narcissistic people towards you it could be due to your own self esteem issues. You may not feel worthy of being in a great relationship or you may have a softer personality so you settle for controlling people who take charge and call all the shots.
Once you realize that you “deserve” a loving relationship, you will be clearer about what you will allow on your life path. We have all kissed a few toads, warts included, but diversity is what makes life interesting after all. We can then appreciate finding that special someone that fits into our world when they enter into our lives.
Experimentation is part of a learning curve from our childhood through to being an adult. Each phase that we go through every 7 years, teaches us how to move forward & to understand what our purpose is in this lifetime. It’s always great to keep learning but we have to know when to move on from unhealthy scenarios. Staying & making excuses due to fear or not wanting to be alone, is not the answer. If a relationship feels like it is too much work, it usually is!
This is the time to be true to yourself & find a love that is real. Living for someone else & their egotistical lifestyle will eventually numb your soul & you will forget who you were before you met them. Always be aware of who “You” are in a partnership & never let someone overshadow you.
I love this quote ~ “The teacher appears when the student is ready.”
Susan McCord @ http://www.facebook.com/DatingRelationshipTalkShow