What is your opinion on middle aged, single, childless women who are or have given up on having a relationship in order to become a mother?
I have read numerous articles & seen the statistics on the growing “craze” of “artificial insemination from a donor bank” for women who have reached a particular age. They have literally given up on finding that one person to give them the “full idealistic package”. Some women no longer want to bother with dating; getting to know the man & having him turn out to be NOT what you hoped for. Are women putting too many expectations on men these days when it comes to relationships?
We all want to be in a happy relationship/marriage but it doesn’t come all at once. When you’re dating & asking all the “goals & family” questions this should be the first sign if the two of you are even compatible. Many relationships don’t speak of what they’re really after (due to wishful thinking –he or she may be the one) that the mistakes of holding on are made.
Many men out there when they’re dating come right off the bat and say that they have no interests in children or being a “step father or father figure” to anyone’s children. It is cruel without getting to know the kids involved (If any) but at least complete honesty is best and the two of you will NOT have expectations (or anymore future dates).
So, some of these women have made a pact to themselves that they would seek out their own happiness in the best way they knew how; without a relationship & turning to a sperm bank.
A goal has been met to STOP DATING & focus on becoming a parent. Please correct me if I am wrong but I personally believe that It is a woman’s choice WHEN to have a child; HOWEVER giving up on sharing your heart with a significant other shouldn’t be put on the shelf because you don’t believe there isn’t anyone out there for you. There is someone for everyone in the world; simply STOP having TOO many expectations.
Women who have reached that age & clearly have given up the idea of being in a relationship or ever being married and having a family will go to the next step in achieving what their hearts truly desire. If you can’t have the “partner” then find alternative methods will most certainly be the next move. For those who can afford it; they’re dreams will come true; well at least of being a mother.
Is this considered a Selfish or Selfless Act? Who is the one benefitting from becoming a mother from an ANONYMOUS DONOR (who just may possibly have dozens of other siblings out there) & Never Dating again? Is this action really to become a parent or should it be a reality check into giving up on Dating because of HIGH EXPECTATIONS?
To the women who have sworn off dating to become parents; more power to you. Once you have reached your dream in becoming a parent; when & how will you tell your child that day they ask “Who & Why don’t I have a daddy? Will you tell them “Because I wanted & chose you.”
I’m sure this will be one of the answers these mothers will tell those children; when in reality they should be saying “It’s because I gave up on men & relationships & chose to create my own special relationship with (you my child) from someone I didn’t have to get involved with. Harsh but true.
Don’t give up on yourself in finding love; it comes in all shapes and sizes. A baby, a house, a successful career, just because you want to become a mother shouldn’t stop you from being happy as a WOMAN also.