The sound of a lover’s pumping heart has turned into text tones, Skype sounds, and rustling keyboards. Today, nearly 3 million spouses live a part from their significant others, and as many as 75 percent of college students have reported engaging in a long-distance relationships during their college careers. Educational pursuits, dual-career paths, military deployment, and emigration, are the most common reasons couples opt for distance situations, and many turn to technology to maintain interpersonal communication and intimacy.
Unlike common skepticism that LDRs are too challenging and stale, recent studies suggest that long-distance relationships and intimacy through technology actually make the heart grow fonder. So what are some ways lovers are using technology to dissipate the distance?
1. Skype & Facetime dates
Like a relationship that has the comfort of proximity, daily communication in a long-distance situation is the key to a successful relationship. Video-chatting provides face-to-face intimacy you can’t get anywhere else.
Although video-chats can get old after a while, it’s easy to spice up a Skype or Facetime date by screen sharing and watching a movie, playing an online game, or making separate dinners and eating “together.” For an optimal date environment, wear bright and interesting colors and patterns. Make sure you have a strong internet connection and good lighting. If you don’t have in-home internet, head over to the local cafe and have a coffee date.
The advent of smartphones have left us with the tools to spice up our relationships. Specifically for LDR situations, a new app called Couple creates a space to share the little moments in life. Not only does it feature its own video-chat option, but you can doodle pictures to one another, snap photos, share locations, and engage in the wondrous “Thumb Kiss” which allows lovers to virtually touch each other via screen pad. Couple is a great tool to share even the mundane parts of life that are usually missed in a long-distance situation.
3. Use the world wide web
Even from miles away you can still surprise your lover with flowers, but have you tried sending a virtual kiss, or making your significant other a song? The internet is full of quirky and fun ways to be creative and connect with your partner. Try taking an online class together, send a telegram, or listen to the same audiobook.
No matter how many miles keep lovers a part, technology is alleviating the distance and increasing intimacy. It just takes a little creativity, a smidgen of patience, and time.