There’s an exercise I learned in “therapy school” for when you want to get to know someone better: you ask the person what their favorite animal is and why – his/her answer will reveal what qualities he/she admires the most and, most often, the person will have similar traits or characteristics of that animal.
My favorite animal is the Honu (for those outside of Hawaii reading this: http://www.hawaiiseaturtle.com/). If you’ve ever caught a glimpse of a honu in the water you know that once you see one, you have to wait around for some time to see it rise to the surface again since one of the honu’s capabilities is to remain underwater for a considerable amount of time; like the honu, I feel like I’m poking my head out of the water just long enough to take a breath before I resubmerge so while I may be “down” I’m not out – just allowing the healing waters to take over until I’m back up on the beach and able to meaningfully kick the sand around again.
For those of you who’ve contacted me worried and concerned, thanks for checking up – I know it’s unusual for me to be so MIA but the “Fleeing abuse in real time” case really took a toll on me and I’m trying to piece myself back together from it. My husband tells me to not be so down about it because ultimately it was a success: no one was killed – we’re all still alive. I guess in my mind success meant that justice would finally be served and if only just for once, good would triumph over evil and the bad guys would suffer the natural consequences of their actions. Perhaps my expectations were too high? There was some very slight consolation in knowing that Mom and I weren’t alone when I received an email from Congresswoman Tulsi Gabbard’s office on June 18th with “Never Stop Fighting” in the subject line that said
Last week, the House refused to bring my bill seeking justice for victims of sexual assault in the military to the floor for a vote. The Military Justice Improvement Act will provide a fair, transparent process to investigate and prosecute military sexual assault crimes, action that the victims of these heinous crimes have demanded. But last week, this bill wasn’t even allowed on the House floor for an up or down vote.
Well, if there’s one thing I’ve learned throughout my life, whether serving in the military or as a civilian at home, it’s that you never stop fighting when you have something worth fighting for.
Considering the thousands of military sexual assault victims who’ve come forward in recent months, HOW can a request for seeking justice even be denied?! Why isn’t protecting our own from our own a priority here and in Washington? Isn’t there something fundamentally and crucially wrong if your chances of rape go up if you’re serving in the military? I’m not going to beat the honor and integrity dead horse again, but at least respond to the crime – if not, what’s the point of even having military SART (Sexual Assault Response Team) training like this? http://www.sane-sart.com/filemgmt_data/files/SpeakersWorkshops11.pdf
If you don’t have time for a three-day training on the issue, here’s all you need to know: when someone is threatened, says “No” or has to be drugged or beaten into unconsciousness before sex, it’s non-consensual or rape and last I knew, rape is a felony in every jurisdiction that comes with jail time – no caveats or exemptions depending upon who the rapist is and who the victim is/victims are.
The Australian army is apparently dealing with similar concerns (see the attached You Tube video) but somehow I think their army (and their country) is going to emerge better and stronger if only for the voice and leadership of Lieutenant General David Morrison. Could you just imagine what kind of a military (and country) we’d have if we had more people like him around?
Once upon a time the United States was considered to be “the greatest nation on earth” but as a January 2013 article points out we haven’t legitimately held that title in quite some time already. http://crooksandliars.com/nonny-mouse/greatest-nation-earth-isnt-us
If a society is measured by how it treats its weakest members then we’d rank even lower then what this article generously allows us. Those who have been victimized – whether that be through domestic violence, child abuse, sexual assault, crime, bullying, etc. – are our weakest members with women and child victims capping those issues across the board, yet even with this information blatantly out there nothing appears more important then protecting the “high and mighty” and keeping our elite elite. If memory and history serves me correctly, scenarios like what I just mentioned typically don’t end well for the high and mighty and elite; perhaps if they re-read and learn from history they won’t be bound to repeat it.
Ok, that’s enough “surface time” for today. Get out there and enjoy the summer sun – that’s where I’m headed!