According to a Pew Forum on Religion And Politics February 2008 report, one in four young adults aged 18 to 29 claim no religious affiliation. This increasing gap between young people who believe and those who do not makes understanding they choice of remaining abstinent more difficult. Living an abstinent life in modern day society is not easy.
The issue of abstinence is not a new battle for young Christian women. The initial purity pledges, which attempted to educate young Christians on abstinence, began in 1993 by the 2.5 million members of the Southern Baptist Church with the “True Love Waits” movement. While most of these pledges were geared toward teenagers, the pledge’s intent was to guarantee that young adults waited to have sex until marriage.
As Christian women we recognize that God intended sex for a man and wife, however why is it important and what can purity do to our spiritual walk? Proverbs 15:26 proclaims: “The Lord detests the thoughts of the wicked, but those of the pure are pleasing to him.” As Christian doctrine explains, a sexual union was originally intended for those in a lifelong commitment to one another. Therefore any sexual act committed outside of marriage lessens the impact and dedication to one’s spouse in the future. Being pure allows us to have full dependency on God. We learn to turn to Him to fill any lack that lies within us.
Sexual temptation begins in our thoughts. Martin Luther once said: “We can’t avoid every temptation, but we can avoid many of them, and we can certainly resist their attempts to take hold of us.” The battle to remain abstinent is one that is fought internally in both the mind and the heart. Turning to God with a simple prayer or asking for help and strength in our struggle can determine the difference in giving into sex or staying abstinent.
Whether one has remained abstinent their entire life or has had sex before, a clean heart is always available. The best advice for women who have embarked in sexual activities is to repent. True repentance is the key to living a pure lifestyle. Once we do that, relying on God’s strength is the only way we can remain pure.
It’s important to stay pure because we are living in His (God’s) temple. We belong to Him. If we respect God, we should respect His house as well as yourself. Your singleness and purity is a gift. Don’t take a season of singleness for granted. We have the chance to grow with God with no other relationship distracting us. Hold on to your purity like it’s a treasure. No man or woman can fill the emptiness God can fill and not one sexual indulgence can satisfy you. Only God can and He will forever remain.
Tijuana L. Canders can be reached TijuanaLCanders@gmail.com or on her Twitter pages @YALIC_UNITY @TijuanaLCanders
Tijuana L. Canders is also the Author of ~You are loved In Christ: Unity Amongst Christians Available Amazon.com & BarnesNobles in October