Here in the USA, we celebrate a special day on the third Sunday in June. It is called Father’s Day. It is a day to recognize the importance of fatherhood, the bonds between a man and his children, and to recognize the influence that fathers have in our society.
An ideal father is one who is in the home, who works to support their family financially, who provides leadership, guidance, support and encouragement to their children; along with discipline. It is still possible for fathers to influence their children in a positive way if they do not live in the same home. It just takes more determination.
It was once said that children need their mother’s love, but their father’s discipline.
Also, Dads are filling the role of father whether they are the biological parent or not. There are fathers who adopt, fathers who in reality are grandfathers, or other men who fill the role of father. They are to be commended and honored.
A true adage says: “Anyone can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad!”
According to AT & T there are more phone calls made on Mother’s Day than any other day of the year – and not nearly so many on Father’s Day. However, the majority of these calls made on Father’s Day are made collect. Poor Dad, it always seems that no matter what – his pocketbook gets involved.
Mothers make out like a bandit on their day while fathers often get ho hum gifts. Mothers are likely to get jewelry, flowers, and expensive perfumes; while good ole Dads mainly receives the classic tie, shirt, or gadget.
Sonora Dodd of Spokane, Washington thought that since Mother’s Day was a special day to honor Mothers; that Fathers should also have a day to be honored and celebrated. Her father was a Civil War veteran who raised six children on his own. So in 1910, she began a movement to have a special day for fathers.
An important and startling fact regarding Mother’s Day versus Father’s Day is that there are so many more single parent homes; with many more single mothers bringing up kids than single fathers.
Another sad fact is that with so much promiscuity (and women having sex with multiple partners) many young people today simply do not have a clue as to who their father might be.
There is also an alarming trend of adultery, alcoholism, and drug addiction in the modern day family, which results in single parent homes.
However, there are still strong and godly parents working every day to bring up their children in the admonition of the Lord. But there are far too many parents who bask in their own selfish adoration. For many, their social life is often far more important than the lives and welfare of their children.
One of the Ten Commandments states that we are to honor our Father and Mother. It does not say if they deserve the honor or not. Even those who are not worthy of their children’s love and admiration, they should still honor and respect them.
However, there are many men who bring children into the world who have never been and never will be a father to their children. The welfare rolls and food stamp allotments are mostly for women with children – where there is no father in the home. Sometimes this becomes a heritage for future generations.
Many women, while not all, are responsible for these situations because they settle for less of a man than the one God created for them to love and MARRY and spend the rest of their lives with! The marriage between a man and a woman is to love and honor one another; and to protect the children. God created the family first – that shows just how important they are.
It is fitting here to honor all the fathers who are in the military and who cannot be with their families for so many holidays; and to honor those mothers who keep the home fires burning for when they do come home. We also honor the families of those whose fathers have given their lives for their country. We grieve with those whose father’s have gone on to be with the Lord.
Studies have shown that where there is no father in the home, children are more likely to grow up maladjusted and sometimes even misfits. They are likely not to do as well in school, and are far more likely to get into trouble; especially boys. God intended that men be role models and examples before their sons, (and daughters). A young girl will often marry the same type of man her father is.
In comparison, there are only a small percentage of fathers who are the single parent in a home. Mothers far outnumber fathers in this category. When children only have one parent in the home, usually the mother, they see how hard she works and sacrifices for them. Would that they honored her all year long and not just on Mother’s Day. She has become both mother and father.
Check this site for a comparison of gifts given on Mother’s Day versus Father’s Day.
Other reasons for the lopsided statistics regarding these two holidays are that many times children prefer to do other things with their father on their special day other than buy unappreciated gifts that end up in the back of the closet.
Some choose to share a sporting event, a cook-out, or even a mini-vacation spending time with their father. Many fathers are so busy working and making a living that children often are unable to spend as much time with them even if they are still in the home. Making the best of all holidays helps to bond families together.
Florist and retailers say that the number of gift baskets and flowers for mothers far outweigh those bought for fathers. According to Hallmark, far more cards are sold for Mother’s Day than for Father’s Day. Some think they are too “mushy” for fathers.
But they are not – often when a father passes away, among his things they will find years of hand-made notes, cards, and other sentimental keepsakes from their children.
In one given year, consumers spent an estimated $11.25 billion for Mother’s Day that year, while Father’s Day brought in just $8.23 billion.
We often speak of founding fathers, absentee fathers, and even a Holy Father. God decreed that fathers would be an indispensable part of the family – the head of the family – the leader of the family, the provider for the family; as well as the protector.
We are given a glimpse of fatherhood through our Holy Father. He is the head, the leader, the provider, and the protector.
Mothers are to be the nurturer, the caregiver, and the home builder. She is to come along side of the father for them to be united in raising, and meeting the needs, of the children. When either is missing, the equation becomes more difficult.
Fathers who are truly fathers, (and dads) are to be commended, recognized, honored, revered and respected by those children to whom he gives so much; just as all of us should be aware of these blessings in our relationship with our Heavenly Father, God.
He is worthy to be honored and praised.
Learn more about the history of Father’s Day here.
The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.
1 Timothy 5:8
“But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”
An infidel is an unbeliever. And unbeliever does not inherit the Kingdom of God.
The best thing a father can do for his children, is to love their mother.
Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers who take their responsibility seriously and who are the recipients of the undying love of their children. That is a reward far more valuable than gold.