Believe it or not, most undesirable re-occurring patterns in your life stem from childhood experiences. These patterns can affect your career, finances and most especially… relationships. In the relationship area it can include your romantic relationships, as well as, relationships with friends, co-workers and family members. If you find yourself in negative relationship patterns that keep re-surfacing in your life, the first step to breaking the pattern is to figure out where it began.
Negative Relationship patterns can include,
ATTRACTING PEOPLE WHO…:
- Continually betray you
- Treat you or your feelings as insignificant
- Are afraid to commit to you
- Are Physically or Emotionally Abusive
- Are addicts (Gambling, Alcohol, Drugs)
- Try to control you
If you recognize people in your life that fit any of the above mentioned patterns, chances are either one of both of your parents or your sibling(s) exhibited the same behavior towards you at some point in your childhood.
Even if you were for the most part loved and cared for as a child, most people have at least one parent or a sibling who did not treat them as well as they should have been. There’s no reason to feel guilty if you do recognize any of these traits in your parents. Most parents are only repeating the patterns they learned as children themselves and in many cases do not even realize the negative effect it’s having on their child.
If you were hurt or neglected as a child emotionally or physically, this can lead to long-standing subconscious mental blocks that if unattended, will affect your choices and relationships for the rest of your life. In addition, without correction and/or healing, this pattern will continue on from generation to generation until someone decides to put a stop to it.
One example of a re-occurring pattern is finding yourself in relationships with people who treat you or your feelings as insignificant. Think back to a time in your childhood when someone else treated you that way (many times a parent or siblings). At that time a false belief was created in your child mind that you really were unimportant. Therefore, now as an adult you continue to attract people who treat you that way to confirm this false belief you have about yourself.
Remember…Your thoughts create your reality (even if those thoughts are only subconscious).
It’s Time to Let It Go…
The first step in healing is remembering the childhood incident(s) and recognizing that the error was not on your part but on the person who did not respect and honor you as you should have been. Then you must, let go of the lie that your inner child now holds on to and take your power back.
You ARE important and your feelings and thoughts should be honored and made a priority by the people in your life!