It is no secret that humans have sexual desires that can sometimes be overwhelming, but the question is when is the right time? It is easy for a person to be confused about such a big decision as the media gives the perception that sex is quick and effortless. We constantly see movies and TV shows where people meet randomly and sleep together casually, ultimately engaging in crazy, passionate sex. But in all actuality, it’s just not that simple. So how do you know when it’s the right time to take it to the “next level”?
When the moment seems right and the mood has been set it is easy to get carried away. But don’t let your emotions make the choice for you. It is important to think about a few things before you take it to the next level. First of all, where do you want the relationship to go? There’s nothing worse than sleeping with someone when you are both going in two different directions. For instance, if you want a relationship and he just wants to be friends, you might wanna wait. If you have different goals and values, you might wanna wait. If you can’t take her home to Mama, you might wanna wait!
Another thing to consider is your own personal comfort level. Think of how you’ve handled things in the past. If you have a tendency to get too attached too soon then you might want to take it a bit slower this time around. It’s worse to do it too soon than too late. As long as you’re livin’ it’s never too late. In this world of technology time can seem to pass faster than it actually does. So when you meet someone and there is an instant connection you may forget that you don’t actually know them in an intimate way. You text or call each other day after day, so it seems as if you have known each other forever. This false sense of time can cause you to speed up a process that should not be taken lightly.
When you have sex with someone it is easy to get emotionally tied to that person and if you’re not sure it’s the right person for you this could be a big mistake. There’s really no set time of how long you should wait in a relationship to move to the next level, but it’s more of a feeling. You shouldn’t have to second-guess yourself. If the time is right you will know. Listen to your gut. Your gut always knows. And if your gut doesn’t know, then talk to the one person in your life who knows you more than anyone in the world.
Top 10 Ways to Know You’re Moving Too Fast
1. You just met them
2. You don’t know their last name.
3. Or their first name!
4. Your first and second date were both on the day you met
5. You don’t know what they do for a living
6. You have never seen them in daylight
7. You are intoxicated
8. You just broke up with someone else yesterday
9. You don’t know their sexual history
10. You never quite made it to the bed.
What do you think is the appropriate time to wait?
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