When the topic of “intimacy” arises, the minds of most people immediately jump to physical relationship, especially sex, as the primary definition of the term. In reality, the physical aspect is just one of four facets of intimacy according to a pair of researchers.
In their book, “Intimacy: International Survey of the Sex Lives of People at Work,” Andrew Kakabadse and Nada Kakabadse identify four types of intimacy based on their research. The first type is cognitive intimacy, in which people share their thoughts and ideas in ways that bring them closer together. Experiential intimacy develops during active, mutual activities engaged in by groups of individuals. The maturing of trust and strong personal bonds comprise emotional intimacy. Finally, physical intimacy consists of sensual proximity and various forms of touching. It is obvious that achieving and maintaining a sense of intimacy is hard work.
The knack for navigating these aspects of intimacy is not inherent, however, and many painful mistakes are made during the process of trial-and-error along the way. In an effort to help the path to intimacy become more successful and less painful, Unity North Atlanta Church is sponsoring a workshop entitled “Intimacy and Communication” on Sunday, June 2, 2013, from 1 to 3 pm in the Administration Building (upstairs). Rev. Jesse Rhea, Pastoral/Relationship Counselor at Unity North, will facilitate. Registration for this workshop is not required. There is a $20.00 suggested love offering, but it is not required for participation in the workshop.
Workshop participants will learn: (a) how to communicate through your healed self rather than your wounded self; (b) how your perceptions of your sense of worth and value affects your intimate relationships; (c) how to recognize the connection of intimacy and how to maintain it; (d) to understand the difference between needing someone (which is not rooted in the recognition of the divine in yourself) and wanting someone (which recognizes and acknowledges the divine within you); (e) to understand the steps in a communication model that clarify the true inner natures of the male and the female, as well as the roles among family members; and, (f) to understand the five levels of a relationship and the spiritual development associated with each level.
Unity North Atlanta Church is located at 4255 Sandy Plains Road in Marietta, Georgia 30066. The church campus is located in the Atlanta suburb of East Cobb. Directions from Columbus, Georgia: Take I-75 North from Atlanta to Exit 276A – Canton Road (5 Spur) going north. At the first light, turn right onto Sandy Plains Road. Follow Sandy Plains for approximately 6.7 miles. The church is located on the left side of the road. Make a U-turn at the next intersection.
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Available related texts on Amazon include: (1) “You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation” by Deborah Tannen ($12.69 in paperback); (2) “Intimacy: International Survey of the Sex Lives of People at Work” by Andrew Kakabadse and Nada Kakabadse ($84.21 in hardcover); (3) “Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships” by David Schnarch, PhD ($12.21 in paperback); (4) “Fear of Intimacy” by Robert W. Firestone and Joyce Catlett ($16.47 in paperback); (5) “Stop Running From Love: Three Steps to Overcoming Emotional Distancing and Fear of Intimacy” by Dusty Miller ($13.93 in paperback); and (6) “Understanding the Tin Man: Why So Many Men Avoid Intimacy” by William July ($15.00 in paperback).