Dating is hard to do. It would be nice to think that you could just randomly meet “the one” in your day-to-day interactions, but it doesn’t always happen that way. For most people, if you want to go on dates you have to actively put yourself out there. Nowadays, we are so busy with work and other stuff that we forget to (or just don’t have time to) go out and meet people at clubs or bars. Ain’t nobody got time for that! Is online dating our only option? Is it safe to date online?
It is safe to date online, just make sure you’re being safe about it. If you don’t have a lot of free time and don’t get out much that is your only option. But just be sure to use the necessary precautions, just like you would if you were meeting a stranger, because technically you are meeting a stranger! You may have been communicating online, but you still don’t know them. Make sure someone knows where you are. You might be embarrassed about the stigma of online dating, so you might not post it on FB or tweet about it, but at least tell your best friend. Be sure to meet them there so you can get away if you need to. And feel free to text a friend to call you with an “emergency” if you don’t feel safe (or are just not feelin it) and need to get away quick without being rude.
Try to use Match.com or eHarmony, or one of the other more popular (safe) sites. Match.com was founded in 1993 and eHarmony launched in 2000, so they both have enough history and credibility to make them “legit”. It’s Just Lunch is also a popular matchmaking service (founded in 1991). Just because you’re using a legit site, doesn’t mean you still won’t get a few crazies, you may. But you have to use your own judgement and trust your gut.
According to ConsumerRatings.com, the top 5 online dating sites are: Match.com (Best Overall), Zoosk (Fun and easy to use), eHarmony (Serious relationships), Chemistry.com (Fun Matching System), and OurTime (Designed for Seniors).
If things go well after the first date, follow up with a second date, but be sure to take things super slow.Take things slower than slow. Remember that a good first impression is good, but it is still just your first impression. There is still so much you don’t know about this person. They have baggage just like you have baggage and it takes months, years even, to really get to know someone. Unlike relationships that form from friendships (college friend or co-worker), you have no prior knowledge about this person. Everything you know about them is what they are presenting to you. And it is at the beginning of relationships that people present the best version of themselves. Give it a few months before you get too serious to be sure they really are who they say they are.
If you’re thinking about dating online, you’re not alone! According to Technorati, 30% of web enthusiasts search for love on the internet daily.
“Is it safe to date online when a woman doesn’t get out much? I go to school and work and not really anywhere else. I would like to meet someone but have no idea how to do so after being divorced.” – Anonymous
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What do you think? Is online dating safe? Is that our only option in today’s society?
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