Johnstown Relationships- The Words We Say
You have probably heard the statement- `watch what you say’, this cannot be more truthful in everyday life. Sometimes people say things they don’t want a particular person to hear. Sometimes we say things out of anger or spite, and maybe have regrets later. Sometimes we say hurtful things to put someone down. Sometimes we say a negative comment and it can be taken out of context. Very often we don’t think before we speak. That can harm more people than we intend to.
If you have ever been bullied or victim of abuse, you know exactly what I mean. Words can do more harm than anything we might do physically to another person. `Sticks and stones may break my bones. But words can never hurt me.’ What a wonderful fantasy that is. Words tend to do more damage and harm to a person than any physical pain. Our bodies can heal, maybe with some aches and minor pains in life. However, words are ever lasting!
When you call someone stupid, useless, idiot, waste of space, and possibly some words I cannot type in this article. The person might wave them off, but trust me they tend to last. Anytime they make a mistake, the words reappear. Anytime they fail at something, the words reappear. If they are depressed or stressed out, the words reappear. Get the picture yet?
As we have seen in the media, sometimes comments we make to a certain person or group get taken out of context. Then those words resurface, causing more harm to the person originally making that statement. We saw such a thing happen in the last Presidential election with Mitt Romney, and even President Obama. We have heard comics over the years use profanity and racial slurs in the past for humor, which were taken out of context and used to persecute them. Now we have Paula Dean under attack.
My question is when will people learn. Sometimes comments are inappropriate. But why do we continue to bring up painful and hurtful words to condemn someone? Why is it so important for people of fame and celebrity to be perfect all the time? We are all human, prone to make mistakes. But why is it so news worthy when some famous makes mistakes? Have we become so jaded and cold that we relish in other peoples’ misery?
I admit a few times I also became very upset when certain people of fame have spoken out and caused a stir. When Tom Cruise made the comment about Psychiatrists and therapists to be fake and how it went against Scientology to seek that kind of help. I banned him from everything, and he was and is a good actor. When people follow the tabloids and make them news-worthy, they become center stage of our lives.
So do we continue to hurt people with our words, OF COURSE. We are human!! Everybody has misspoken from time to time. All of us have said things that hurt another person. I think the reality of harmful words is a tragic thing. If we only watched and thought before speaking everybody’s life would be easier.
But that is not reality! I do think the cure for all of this is to be mindful of people around you. Don’t say something you would regret later. For friends, loved ones, and even celebrities, show them support if you believe in them. If you have been hurt by painful words, make sure you talk to a professional on how to be a survivor.
Finally, BE A GOOD AND CARING HUMAN BEING!!! That is the only way you can survive this lifetime and the next. Cherish your words of love and compassion. Use them often!! Mean, spiteful, racial, and cruel comments will only cause you and those you love harm and heartache.