“If you expect the unexpected, you will be prepared for miracles.”
(Courtesy The MAP deck of Oracle cards by Colette Baron-Reid)
I remember when I was in high school and studying Ninjutsu, I used to tell my friends and martial arts students “If you learn to expect the unexpected then you will expect it all.” Each time I would recite this phrase I was met with the oddest of looks as my students would try to figure out the meaning and my friends would try to figure out if they needed a new friend or not. (Smile)
One day a student named Cristopher (from Argentina) asked me what I meant. I told him basically that in the martial arts when you become so skilled that you go beyond the techniques to a place where everything the potential attacker would or could come at you with has a defense and counter attack; not because you have memorized them but because you are able to flow with whatever happens as if you knew it were possible. This state of Mushin of No Mindedness is what expecting the unexpected refers to.
People tend to become upset and frustrated when a person or situation does not “live up to their expectations.” Why is this?
Why does the parent “expect” their child to do or behave in a certain manner? And when the child does not do as “expected” the parent feels angry, depressed, frustrated, or confused. How many parents expected their sons and daughters to grow up, marry and give them grandchildren and yet were oddly disappointed when their son wanted to marry a man and their daughter marry a woman? How many parents cannot accept their gay child simply because the child is not living up to the parent’s expectations? Is that fair? Is that healthy? No, it is neither fair to the child or to the parent who is doing the expecting and no it is not healthy for the relationship or the body temple.
Let me explain. . .
When a person’s expectations are not lived up to, that person tends to develop a certain level of resentment for the person they deem responsible for the frustration, anger, confusion; namely the one not living up to the expectations. Resentment when held in the body begins to wreak havoc on the various systems of the body because as science and medicine have proven, the mind-body connection is real! Some metaphysicians and physicians have even questioned if resentment could be a possible contributing factor to the body’s susceptibility to manifesting cancer. The jury is still out on that one as far as I know. Regardless, it has been proven that anger, frustration, and resentment weaken the body’s overall defenses to things like colds, flu, and fatigue! When you are resentful (Full of bitterness and indignation) you feel wronged, slighted, injured, and hurt and the longer these feelings brew in your system the more you increase the chance of demonstrating a physical condition related to the emotions.
Louise Hay has a great book called “You Can Heal Your Life” where she goes in to greater depth how the metaphysical, emotional, and physical are interconnected.
Now back to the point, when you release your “expectations” meaning you release your need to have another person be as you want them to be; you have no need for a situation to be as you want it to be. You are in a state of “flow and ease” where what happens is what happens and you ride the wave. I always look at this like surfing. How much sense would it make for the surfer to expect the wave to behave as he (or she) needs it to? If it were that easy, no surfer would ever wipe out! What the surfer does instead of trying to control the wave, is be in the now, be present, and in control of his (her) own body and reactions. When the wave shifts, they shift. That is expecting the unexpected and therefore adapting and allowing the miraculous to occur!
Had Helen Keller’s parents done what was expected of them, Helen would never have been truly educated and most certainly would never have become the public figure she became. Yet, by being open, allowing and in the now, Anne Sullivan did the unexpected and miracles occurred.
This is the power that each of us possess in our lives right here, right now.
What expectations will you choose to release and not expect today so that the Universe can manifest miracles through you in unexpected ways (smile)
In love and gratitude