It is undoubtedly one of the scariest words around. It indicates leaving a comfort zone that we’ve grown used to. It potentially ushers in unpleasant feelings that we don’t want to experience. It connotes having to take risks that we don’t want to take. Having to start a new job…a new relationship…move to a new city…whoa! Those things are hard! We learn to accept the complacency of our present circumstances in order to lessen the painful impact a “change” may bring.
Yet, ironically, we long for events to change in our lives.
We desire for more. We crave for better, thinner, and faster. “I want a bigger paycheck!” “I am miserable in this relationship!” “I need to lose weight!”
To get what we want, we often have to do what we dislike. To get a better job, we have to take the risk and leave the comfort of the one we have. To have a chance to create a harmonious and edifying relationship, we have to leave the security of the mediocre one. To lose the weight, we have to give up some favorite foods and find the motivation to jump on the treadmill.
And there lies a big life success secret: Nothing changes…unless something changes.
If we don’t put in the effort, if we don’t take the action or risk, we are perpetually destined to stay in the exact unpleasant situation in which we currently reside. And really, how would you feel if five years from now you were in the exact same unwanted life position you are in now? I imagine your answer would not have a G-rating.
There was once a woman who month after month would fall onto her knees each day and pray to win the lottery. Over time, her prayers became more ardent and desperate until one day a huge voice came down from the heavens:
“If you want to win the lottery, consider buying a lottery ticket first!”
With the exception of winning the lottery, very seldom do the changes we desire in our lives simply fall into our laps. It just doesn’t work that way. Positive changes…positive rewards…positive experiences…need to be coaxed into our lives. They need to be created.
If your life, in any area, is not what you truly desire, here are two things you can do to create the change you want:
1. Look in the mirror.
If your life isn’t everything that you would like it to be, look in the mirror and question yourself. What are you throwing out into the Universe? Why are you not creating the life you want?
2. Start causing.
If you find yourself unhappy with the results you are producing or the direction you are going, with every bit of passion you can muster tell yourself, “Enough is enough!” Choose to quit complaining about everything that is not going right, and instead, choose to take action and create the change you want.
Sure, “change” can be frightening on the surface. But when you dig deeper, you know what is more scary?
So the next time you are unhappy about an area in your life, remember “nothing changes…unless something changes.” And then start changing.