The warnings against pursuing a relationship on the rebound cannot be given strongly enough. It is very rare that a rebound relationship ends well, but very common that they do indeed end. A relationship on the rebound is one which is entered into when either one or both parties involved in it are still not over a prior relationship and that relationship has generally ended a rather short time prior to the new one beginning. There are many dangers of pursuing a relationship on the rebound.
One of the most common dangers of rebound relationships is that someone is going to get hurt in all likelihood. It is the very rare case indeed when a rebound relationship lasts over the long haul. This becomes a big problem when one partner realizes that he or she wasn’t ready for a relationship and the other has often had no clue that an end was in the making. Not only can there be heartache, but there can also be extreme anger from the party who feels wronged by the other.
You are likely more vulnerable than usual during this time. Because you have just went through a break-up, you may be more easily swayed by a man or a woman than you would be at other times during your life. You may, for example, be more prone to take a compliment for a proclamation of love that is true than you would at times when you weren’t feeling off your guard.
Lonely and love are too confused when you are on the rebound. Because you are used to being with another person, you are probably feeling very lonely, but it is far too easy to confuse this with being in love. Although these two emotions are extremely far apart, they are too easily confused immediately after a break-up. The last thing you should want to do is to settle for someone just because you’re lonely and not because you actually love him or her, but it’s too easy to do just after a break-up with someone else.
You may settle for less than you normally would, having just had a hit to your self-esteem. Aside from the reasons already stated, which may have something to do with this, you may simply settle for less than you normally would with no other real reason. Typically, people have certain standards that they hold to when looking for a person to build a relationship with, but just after a break-up, this is not always true. You may let your standards down in order to not be alone, but this generally leads to you entering a relationship which will be far less than satisfying for you.
While being the victim of a recent break-up is painful, it is made only more so if you jump into a rebound relationship. This is also true if you are the person who enters a relationship with another who has recently left one. These relationships generally end badly for at least one person, so your best bet is to just wait, heal, and then find the man or woman who you really want and never just settle for whomever comes along who can keep you warm and happy for a brief time.
