Have you ever struggled with change? Can you remember a transition that your mind or a child’s mind strongly resisted that led to incredible energetic (mental, emotional and/or physical) stress?
We might think of change as an expected or unexpected turn of events, but from a baby shifting from full to hungry or an adult going from sleep to waking into a noisy world, everyone is in the midst of change in every moment.
Change feels scary at any age. The good news is that beyond this world of change, what we are, which is Harmonic Light beyond our wildest imagination, never changes. This light remains eternal and unchanging. This light, or, enlightenment, is accessed within our still core, at any age. Yet, we have a hard time holding onto enlightenment to our higher self because we do not fully trust its peace and joy or that we are safe beyond our body.
As a practitioner who shares about fear and inner peace and how our chi is supporting us to be aware of our internal state (i.e., what we choose to focus on), I see all the time how we encounter resistance within ourselves over the smallest shifts. This resistance can be felt. It is palpable. It is chi (energy/life flow/harmonic and dissonant). Even practiced practitioners of chi energy and frequency will encounter significant, often unconscious, resistance to trusting the flow of life within and find themselves trusting less than peaceful thoughts. If this happens within practitioners, is it any wonder that those who do not spend their days exploring chi may find themselves in a muddle of energy (energy-in-motion is e-motion) and thoughts that spin and spin and spin, with the appearance of being out of control?
How can we support each other and ourselves through internal shifts and resistance to flowing with our chi? Here are a few simple suggestions. (Please, always trust your inner guidance over the suggestions of others. True guidance always brings peace and will never harm another, even if the guidance feels uncomfortable at first.)
Tips for soothing your subtle and not-so-subtle chi during transitional moments:
1. Breathe. Draw in deep, cleansing breaths through the nose. Breathe out through the mouth. Wondrous pranic breathing techniques exist, including Kriya Yoga, for those interested in working with the breath to connect with our still core (higher self). If a transition feels difficult, simply trust the breathing process until you feel more ease within. You may also want to tap on acupressure points to re-establish normal chi flow.
2. Honor what is, regardless of how difficult the transitional scene or story in your own mind is. Whatever the transition, within yourself, allow whatever is happening be okay. This may take a lot of effort at times. The mind can become very attached energetically. This is why change-fears and habits that are long established can feel difficult to transcend. The mind is so used to the energy pattern it can feel almost impossible to let it go.
3. Watch your mind with detachment. When we are not feeling peaceful our mind will drift into stories that may make a transition feel harder. Be honest with yourself about what you are thinking, even if you are afraid to trust being honest. Remain detached, but curious. Don’t be concerned about what others are thinking, with the exception of physical safety. Trust that upsetting thoughts are not helpful, but they are also not needing to be feared. We simply cannot reach the inner guidance, radiance and luminosity that lives within us when we are in fear.
When we condemn our mind’s response to what is, the ego feels coerced and may lash out, withdraw or numb out. This is easy to see and feel energetically in both children and adults. We feel resistance inside because we are one light awareness. Otherwise, we could not feel any upset at all. A mind that believes it is being coerced may withdraw or defend. True strength is absolute vulnerability, but few will choose this path until absolute trust is established through consistent willingness and practice.
3. Trust the guidance that comes by doing step two: honoring what is. When we are less reactive, it is easier to be respectful, responsive and helpful.
4. Trust that everyone is always doing their best depending on how safe or fearful, shaming or blaming they are acting. As we forgive (i.e., give Love and Light) energetically, allowing our own upsets to our energy dissolve, others feel this energetically and harmonically, whether or not their mind is recognizing it (think of Re Cognize, the opportunity for better, more attuned to higher awareness inside our mind is present always).
5. Know that shifting peacefully through transitions, at any age, may take time. Gentle patience is key. Simply trust the upset will pass. The more awake we become to our true self, the more trusting we become.
Depending on how attached our mind is to a story or trusting that we do not “feel quite right,” we can find ourselves responding as if it is ground hog day…the same way over and over and over. Perhaps a response will continue for days, weeks, years or even lifetimes, until we begin to inquire within, allowing energy to dissolve and meditate during transitional moments. Trust that with time and gently allowing ourselves to relax, the upset must soothe. This is natural. Energy that is not fed more energy (the power of our Inner Light) will soothe.
Notably, individuals who are highly sensitive to energy (we all are really) may have difficulty with change and transitions until they become more practiced and confidently aware that peace and joy are always within us. (Be aware: the ego mind will tend to draw the mind into a false peace or distraction from clearing the energy that feels upsetting during transitions. There are many tools, including breathing techniques, to support examining the mind’s upset while allowing energy to dissolve.)
Most of all, remember that our Light is never harmed, even though we may be finding ourselves in transitional muddles at times.
For more information on energy and higher harmonic awareness: Laura Bedford and TrustingOurInnerLight.org
Laura’s book The Mix Up, packed with tools for igniting stronger sensitivity to energy/chi and strengthening awareness of the Inner Light.
For work with horses and their caretakers: HorsesHideTheirPain.org