Whether or not you are religious or have taught your child to be spiritual, there are some basics which a child needs in their life in order to be successful. It is up to their parents to provide this insight to them.
Temptation is something introduced early in our lives. Young children may color on the walls or cut their own hair when your back is turned. Instead of displaying anger, explain to your child in a calm manner that just because something seems like fun, it does not mean that the action is one that is a good decision. Parents that stress the concept of avoiding temptation will create a more successful child overall.
As far as failure is concerned, without adversity there cannot be success at a later date. It has been said that ‘success is overestimated and failure is under-appreciated.’ Some very good advice for a parent to share with their children is that ‘you don’t want to win them all.’
Of course it is typically preferable to want to win or to succeed, but it is also important to teach a child how to be a good loser or fail. Good sportsmanship and good attitudes are much more appreciated than a poor loser with an attitude to match.
With every failure there can be many lessons learned. Although hindsight proves this much more than on-the-spot learning, once a child can learn to look from the outside in they will be better off and more accepting of the failures in their life. Failures allow an individual to become more mature. It can even teach them to be generous in life. With failure comes even greater success.
Parents can teach both concepts by leading by example. It is extremely tempting for adults to want to do anything to get ahead in life to prove to their children that life is doable; sometimes this includes giving in to temptation. What would be even more endearing is for your child to witness the inner struggle that even their parents have to go through with the end result being that temptation was avoided. This would teach more of a lesson then the reverse ever would.
Failing feels like an everyday occurrence when you become a parent. From the smallest to the largest decisions, parents tend to doubt their decisions because there is nothing scarier than to appear to be a failure in front of your children. It is much better than to appear the hero! However, if a parent can shoot straight, their child will be better off in the end.
Strong parents teach strong concepts. If you want to be a parent that teaches your child to succeed, you will want to teach them to ward off temptation by meeting life head on and to accept failure in order to grow. Although it will be difficult, the results will display that you made the right decisions!