Alexandria, La-I want to clarify that my opinions are based on experience and as the mother of a black child. I am just having a difficult time with society and the racial divide that exists today on every level including that based on the foundation of my Christian beliefs.
Please understand, this is not to disrespect anyone. This is addressing a very real issue we face everyday. Though some points I need to make may very well shock you. Maybe it is time for many to be shocked.
These times really have me searching my soul and my heart and rethinking everything and everyone who is a part of or ever has been a part of my life. I recently encountered my first experience with the in your face ignorance or racism and stereotyping from a trusted friend and it was a real blow.
I have no idea how I would have explained my first run in with this racial divide to my child if she were older . No idea! Why would anyone say that her Daddy would have to be treated cautiously by a stranger because of his skin color? Why should her race be singled out at all if the Bible says we are all equal?
I am just horrified that the day will come that I have to explain the divide, and I guess I had better toughen up a little. I have a whole set of fears and responsibilities that most white parents wont ever have or even know exist. I didn’t even know about them until I became her mother.
I am wondering if the views held by so many people today are influenced by their past, conditioning from society, or maybe they are a bit one sided? Something just doesn’t seem or feel quite right still even with all of the “progress” we have so called made. What I see when I go out to do my shopping, pay bills and even sometimes in church is not what I would call progress.
I have had people ask me if I would be uncomfortable walking in my lower third neighborhood. I think I would feel uncomfortable walking in any neighborhood to tell you the truth.
A white man just got out of prison after doing 16 years for almost killing me in a predominately white neighborhood, and my stepfather (white also) abused me for many years as a child.
People rant about statistics, but I know that statistics show that more white men are more likely to become serial killers than black men, but I pass them everyday without a thought of it.
I do know a black man saved my life when the white people in my life deemed me unsaveable and had long since given up on me. I am drug free today, have been for years now, and I am always struggling to become a better Christian, mother, friend, sister and so forth. It was all possible because I was given a chance by a black man in a black neighborhood.
It is black people who sheltered me, comforted me and clothed me when I had no one. I am sure many of you don’t understand that. I would be ashamed of who I was if I were still that person today, which I am not. Thanks to a black man caring enough to reach out despite the way society (white people) has treated him, and his father before him. And it could be a black man that pulls you or your child from a burning car someday. God will humble those with haughty hearts, and you had better believe that.
The funny thing is that I know people can be changed. I was raised to hate black people. A lot of my immediate family was die hard KKK supporting rednecks (literally) and I thought then that anyone like me now was an abomination.
I was young, but I was humbled and made to see life differently, and I love who I am today so much more. I say that to say that stereotypes are taught or bred into us as children. That doesn’t mean they are true. Just as all statistics are not really reliable, or not as much as experience anyways. I honestly feel safer in my life now that I ever can remember feeling, ever. I cannot even relate to or remember the old me, but shame on me then and shame on any of you who see our darker skinned brothers and sisters any differently that you see yourself. They have endured more and have been made stronger by hardships many of us can never survive! That’s the truth.
I will be horrified and heartbroken when people treat my daughter (who is black as many of you know) differently or with more “suspicion” because she is black.
I am deeply saddened because I feel that this is the mentality that will rob her of many future opportunities as it does so many of today’s black youth.
I have a hard time thinking of black people being more raciest in a day that we still wave the rebel flag, honor old plantations and wonder why black people get angry or feel indifferent.
Education opportunities , job opportunities and countless other opportunities are not there for poor black families that middle and “upper crust” white families have, and that is the truth of it. Yet many judge them and say they do not want to improve, really? Don’t they?
None of us are perfect, but I was once a little worst for wear. My journey has not been an easy one. It would have been a lot easier and cheaper for my baby’s father to throw me back in the cesspool I emerged from to die than to keep on trying to help me. He is a hard teacher, but he is a good man through and through. For that he has made me a better person. Church had been a solid foundation for the both of us, his strength and my growth.
He is a hard working man, and he adores his baby girl. I cannot imagine him seeing someone from church, getting excited and wanting to say hello only to have them not recognizing him because he was in his work uniform, so they lock the doors and drive off. What if he were holding the baby when it happened, how on earth is that way of thinking ok? Do you see how the messages sent in society may affect the good black people and even good white people?
Is it not all people in present day times we have to really feel out, and is it not common sense to fear any unknown individual approaching you nowadays regardless of color?
We cannot judge our fellow brothers and sisters according to their past,statistics or their race. Every man is to be judged according to their own good or bad deeds. Not held to the fire for the sins of others.
I also think that the statistics are very bias. A lot of black people are incarcerated for crimes they didn’t commit as white men slide through the cracks like I feel Zimmerman did (I know he is white and Hispanic, but this is just an example).
How can we judge let alone prejudge any fellow man based on anything when God clearly doesn’t like that. I thought we are all equal in the eyes of God and why shouldn’t it be so in the eyes of man.
The message is LOVE not judgement. When you get suspicious of a black man the you have prejudged what you think he could be. That is not fair.
That is saying your white daughter cannot hang out with my black daughter because she will be a bad influence (when you don’t even know my daughter) you see? That would be like saying we cannot trust spiritual leaders because of the amount of children molested by their spiritual leaders in the past.
I see where many of you are coming from with what the statistics say, but the Bible says in God does not judge people by appearances, but some people have a tendency to judge people by how they look, including their skin color, God does not judge us by color; He judges the heart. The beauty of God’s judgment is that he is “no respecter of persons” (Acts 10:34), and so we are to judge the same way
2 Timothy 5:21.
You see, God created all things, including the color of our skin (Genesis 1-2). We all come from the first man and woman, Adam and Eve. Paul taught that when he said that God created all things, that He is the Lord of heaven and Earth, and that He made all nations from one man, Adam Acts 17:24-26
I would think that the message would have been unknown people in general in these times should be handles cautiously.
I also want to say to those who cry that black people need to cry out and make a change that many black people here in our neighborhood do want to see change, and I have lived in low poverty white neighborhoods that were just as bad if not worse.
It is the police who refuse to patrol lower third or come down here to make friends that is the problem. It is hard to imagine if you have never lived in a neighborhood like mine, but there are a lot of parents and grandparents, mothers, brothers, sisters and yes even black men here that fight against the world everyday to make a better place for their children just as you do.
You have no idea how many times people call to report things and the police never come, why…because they figure it wont make a difference. The black community has been crying out.
I guess it is hard to understand without being a black person (or the mother of a black person) how hurtful and discouraging the message we get out of the little things we are met with in society everyday can be. So many of us are in a position to make such an impact, a difference even if you just change the heart of one person through gentle redirection and love for all fellow man. Am I wrong?
I have seen the face of the next generation, and these old ways of believing are quickly disappearing. Will that change come before anymore of our children fall through the cracks, die or are turned bitter from the things that they have to endure just going on about their days because they are black?
I also have found these verses … do I misunderstand the meaning? Do these not apply here?
1 Samuel 16:7
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the
height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
You see, God created all things, including the color of our skin (Genesis 1-2). We all come from the first man and woman, Adam and Eve. Paul taught that when he said that God created all things, that He is the Lord of heaven and Earth, and that He made all nations from one man, Adam
“Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.
For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.
For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.”
1 Peter 3:8-12
“For whatsoever things were written afore time were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope.
Now the God of patience and consolation grant you to be like minded one toward another according to Christ Jesus: That ye may with one mind and one mouth glorify God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Wherefore receive ye one another, as Christ also received us to the glory of God.”
I am a white woman and I am angry with society’s views.
I am more hurt and disappointed. People can say they do not stereotype all day long, but don’t you? Do you not prejudge the homeless man, the black kid with baggy pants, the white woman with a mixed child and so forth? How many judged the president for his speech accusing him of stirring up a race war that was already there. He addressed a real issue, and in my book that makes him a real leader. Is it not really an issue of anger that the black people now have a voice that has really got the goat of a lot of “old school” white folks?
I think the reflection of society’s opinion of my child and on her future have never been more clear, and that is a scary fact / statistic for me as her mother. Get mad at what I have to say, but stew on it and choose to make a difference by being better than you were yesterday.
I feel if we seek things to fear we will find them, but if we seek things to love we will find them too.
Then again, I always have been accused of being to naive and trusting. For than I have also been blessed to know some of the best people I will ever meet in my life.
If this has been offensive search your heart, and be truthful with yourself even if you are never truthful with anyone else. God is who you will need to make amends to, and you can only do that by meeting all of his people with genuine love from this day forth.
Stop the madness and denial. The racial divide is not due to the presidents speech or black people, and it is time to wake up and realize that stopping the racial divide will have to start in white communities, churches and homes.