There are some proven techniques that will help you become more confident and charismatic when conversing and interacting with others.
Think about someone confident. James Bond? Elvis? Superman? A public speaker? Politician? Teacher? The most confident person doesn’t fidget. They’re not wringing their hands or pacing nervously.Be sure not to nod your head so much when someone is talking to you. It makes you look desperate to appease them. Just keep eye contact and smile. Practice and maintain positive and confident body language. Chin up. Stop that slouching now!
It’s important to pause a bit before speaking.This not only helps you listen and process what the person is saying before you say anything, it comes across as a good confident move. Don’t just automatically wait for your turn to speak. Take a second or two to process and react. You will gain respect, and appear more sincere as a good listener.
Following are other successful avenues to gain even more confidence:
Let them concentrate. People like to think and talk about what is important to them. No matter what you have to say, or how insightful your comment is, others will resent you if you interrupt them. You want them to talk about themselves, so let them talk. Don’t forget to let others interrupt you if they want to. Don’t take offense. If someone has something to say, listen.
Make eye contact and hold it.
Don’t ever be the first person to look away. It might sound creepy to just stare into someone’s eyes, but it isn’t. What is creepy is making eye contact and quickly looking away. Breaking eye contact makes you look nervous and ashamed.
Dress for success
Dress for the part. Others make first judgments about you based on the body language and what you’re wearing convey. Look good. Wear something you feel you look good in….something that makes you feel confident.
Let them impress you
Let them impress you.
Harvey Fierstein and Cydni Lauper keep each other talking by being good listeners for the other. Keep the other person talking. If you ask the right questions, you can eventually get others to open up and talk about the things they love to talk about. Really listen to what is being said and how it’s being said. Practice.
Smile with your eyes too. Have something to smile about. Be grateful. See how contagious it is. It’s your calling card. It’s your gift to others. A smile is a present to yourself. Grin. Be Happy. Smile more!
Movement. Any kind of exercise will make you look and feel better. Exercise is the best way to boost self-esteem. If you don’t know where to start, just take one step. Then another. Then another. Don’t worry about the end. Just enjoy the movement, one step at a time. Do whatever floats your boat: run, skip, push-ups, weights, or just dance. Start a routine today.