When asked if people have ever written a love letter, the answer is often a slightly nervous confused shoulder shrugging. People seem to want to have it on their résumé that they are love letter writers, but they are not sure if they qualify. The definition of a love letter can be very broad, indeed, so why not include as much as we can into that definition and make it as easy as possible for people to get credit for writing love letters.
Can we simply include ordinary letters that are sent in a spirit of love? Why not? Some letters, after all, are just for the fun of sharing thoughts and experiences. More letters than you think are love letters. What about a letter sent to wish someone a good recovery from the flu or a surgery? Hand-written concern sent in the spirit of compassion and love certainly counts as a love letter. The details of a vacation sent to a friend? Sharing a recipe? These are all things done in a loving spirit.
With more and more communication being sent electronically, with attachments being forwarded at the speed of, well, very fast, where is the personal touch? And, the personal touch is exactly what turns a routine letter into a love letter. So personalize it, and turn it from an unremarkable letter into a love letter. How?
Easy. First, write it in your own handwriting. Add some love by saying how much and exactly what you treasure. Including even one very specific thing you love is transformational.
Oh, you want an example? Fair enough. At the end of your wishing someone a speedy or full recovery you can simply say, “I love you,” and/or “I love you and want to see your bright smile out on the town again soon.” On that vacation postcard to the folks left at home, you can do the same and add to the “I wish you were here,” the reason you wish it. Why not, “I wish you were here. I love you and any day with you in it is better than with you far away.” People can see the beauty on the post card. Do they need to know only which museum you saw? No, they need to know they are missed and exactly why. It’s all about validation.
A woman recently told me that she amazed all her friends by sending them postcards from afar. “No one does that, anymore,” an astounded and joyful friend told her. These days anything that carries the touch of your hand is a gift. Emails, telephoning and texting are all good but those messages have not felt the touch of your hand and have surely not been held to your lips before being “sent”.
It is so easy to send a caress through the mail and so wonderful to collect.
From me to you with love in the air,
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