What is unconditional love? The best example of unconditional love is what a parent feels for a child. The best example being the love of the Father for the Son or the love God has for us. That love being perfect is in no way equivalent to the imperfect love we human beings share. We as parents are imperfect. Although we try to be rational and fair toward all of our children circumstances often leave us coming up short. For example, often parents are accused for whatever reason of having a favorite child. Perhaps that child appears to be easier to talk to or may seem to initiate a reaction that is perceived to be more of a positive one. Whatever the reasoning, parents must deal with added guilt over these perceptions that may or may not be true. If we all stop to think about it, we all have felt this way once upon a time – either as the perceived favorite or perhaps the black sheep of the family. These accusations being true or not; are not as relevant as how it makes that individual feel.
It is possible that this individual’s beliefs are wrong or not as they appear. We learn so much when we become parents ourselves. At that time, we realize that through unforeseen circumstances, it may happen that we are able to speak with, spend more time, or money with one child more than another. There are things such as distance when we are older; and when we are younger the age of the child or the physical proximity of the child to the parent may also be relevant. Some children may be more sensitive than others and/or perhaps have special needs of some kind. All in all, children are different and their needs vary. It is not possible for parents to be mind readers and they may miss the mark through no fault of their own. Even as adults, we may still hold onto the same perceptions. Even today, those same perceptions may interfere in relationships..
Although I have tried to “love my children differently but the same”, we all make mistakes. As we all grow and mature, we realize that everyone being imperfect, do the very best they can with what they are given at the time. With the help of time, knowledge and acceptance, perceptions become clearer. One day you as parents may come to see things from a different point of view. As well,one day we as children may come to see things from a different point of view. “In God we trust” that we as parents and children may come to see and view that God’s love is truly unconditional. We as humans fall short. In spite of this, we are still capable of love.