Michael Jackson is once again making news headlines regarding his paternal link to his children. Now I’m no legal expert or close confidant, but I did have the honor of meeting the “gloved one” in person after attending the HIStory Tour in Budapest on September 10th, 1996. Michael was so gracious to have my family stay at the Kempinski Hotel, having been the support behind his good friend, Michu Meszaros.
All I can share is what I saw, but it was magical. After an exhausting performance during the concert, Michael enthusiastically hosted us in his room. There were people in his entourage that had children and they, too, were treated like family. I could hear wrappers being crumpled and sweets devoured. Although my time to see him in person was brief, I could immediately sense he was kind, generous and smiled profusely upon my thanking him for the best anniversary gift I could have received (it was my second year married).
I don’t care what kind of paternal links he had to his kids. To me, Michael was the very essence of a good father.
Since my own experience with marrying a man who wasn’t cut out for fatherhood, I’ve become very keen on “good dad” behavior. I’ve seen it many times and was inspired once again when I saw a talented actor named Joshua Fredric Smith display similar acts of unconditional love.
Read more about this intriguing and gifted actor, musician, artist and single father here.
I had the honor of interviewing Joshua for an article about single dads dating, but the tone swung into a territory of frightening reality. Unlike so many men who disappear at the very news of paternity, there are good men among us who are fighting to stay in their child’s life. Smith was neither tainted by the celebrity lifestyle nor the fame and fortune. This man is completely taken by the love for his little girl, London. Speaking with him on such humble terms made me feel sad for his struggle, but optimistic about good men walking the Earth.
Maybe some day I’ll cross paths with my own.
Joshua Fredric Smith told me that dating has taken a back seat while his daughter’s safety comes first. To some men, being a good dad is more rewarding than the quick thrills of dating short term. It’s all about timing and love can’t be rushed.
Ironically, the more a single father is dedicated to his kids, the more attractive he is to me.
If and when you’re ready, love will find you. For all the men who choose to be a good dad first, I tip my hat.
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