To many people friends are like gold. To others, not so much. We all look for people we can trust, confide in, someone we can share good times, as well as bad times. How do we gravitate to such people? Many times, there seems to be a “psychological” chemical attraction. Some are relatives, spouses, siblings. There are those people who prefer to be loners, or even hermits; with no desire to be a part of civilization. These people have trust issues, so they withdraw from everyone and everything but animals.
So how do you pick people that you can call a friend, as well as a best friend? There are several signs in others you could use as guidelines. One is to seek someone who share your beliefs, values, and ideals. These people will be ideal to test ideas and and to hold deep philosophical conversations. They will also have open minds, willing to accept the idea that they are wrong or willing to be critical of you. You, on the other hand, must be willing to accept the criticism of others and be willing to change accordingly. Friendship is a two way street, give and take, equally. You could throw in a dash of patience into the recipe. Without patience, you cannot get past step one.
Next, choose a person that treat people and animals better than himself, or herself. If you see they have a heart for others, and animals equally, this a rare trait and you will be all more the poorer for not bringing them into the fold. Good friends should be kind, sacrificial, willing to help. This does not mean, however, they are door mats. On the contrary. They should be humble, kind, thoughtful, but firm and able to stand their ground. These are the people you will know that will have your back. They will accept you as you are, and will not try to change you. Observing from a distance to see if they are consistent in their behavior will tell you plenty.
Finally, observe their spiritual behavior. If your belief systems blend comfortably, chances are you have found the ideal friend. There is a principle called the Trinity Principle. Based on the holy Trinity of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit; a God with three personalities. Each personality compliments the others, therefore completing each others existence into one. We can do the same in our own lives. First we must reach out to God, who gives us every reason to exist, including salvation. Next, we reached out to another, completing the trinity. You see, to have real fellowship with others, the one connection with God must be strong and unbreakable. The connection to others will also be strong and unbreakable, only if your first connection is anchored in God.
With this principle, you can seek out a closer relationship with friends, mates, and closer ties with family members. This will act as a glue for all of your relationships, These relationships will share your pains and tears, joys and laughter, triumphs and failure. They will not desert you, runaway from you, or cause you pain. This is how you will find friends, even best friends. Look around at the people around you, do they possess these qualities? If not, how secure are they in their relationship? Is it a deep or shallow relationship? You find a friend with the qualities listed above, you have found someone more valuable than fine gold.