When a relationship ends, it can end pretty ugly, leaving tears flowing on either side.
The question is always “Who is to blame?” You have to blame someone right? If it all comes crashing down on you like an avalanche, the relationship must have ended because someone at some point did something so terribly wrong. Who’s really to blame?
Most people pick one of the two responses – “(Wo)men suck” or “It’s all my fault.”
It’s sad to see people go down the “it’s-all-my-fault” road, because that only sends you into a spiraling lane of misery and self-destruction. After a break-up, the last thing you need is to pick apart every single thing you did wrong and what you could have done to try and make it work. The truth is, there’s probably nothing you could have done to make it work. If someone wants to be with you, I mean really wants to be with you, they will! Flaws and all. You can work through most of the little things, so any little thing you said or did would not have changed the outcome of the situation. It is important to know that it is not your fault. (And even if it is, blaming yourself will not help or change the situation).
So get off the couch, stop eating that gallon of ice cream and go try the other approach. (Wo)men suck!
It’s all their fault, and until they realize the error of their ways, you are much better off without them! So often, people break up with someone and make up reasons why it wasn’t working that make it seem like it’s all your fault, but it’s not. The reality of the situation is that they are the one with the problems and issues that they need to work out. You are perfectly fine just the way you are, and they are just not ready to really be with you. They don’t know how to handle being with someone like you. And even though it’s gonna hurt, and they’re gonna blame you, you have got to just get out your one good cry, and then keep it movin! Move on!
You have to take some time to step outside of the situation and see it for what it’s worth. This may seem like the worst thing that could possibly happen to you at this point in your life, but in all actuality, this may be the biggest favor somebody could do for you. When people show you who they are, believe them.
What do you think? When you break up, who’s fault is it? Yours? Theirs? Both??
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