Have you ever been in a relationship where you’ve been with a guy for awhile and want things to progress yet he finds every excuse in the book to not take the next step?
Recently,I have been interviewing men on why they take certain actions in relationships that women would never accept as logical.
I asked the following question:
Why do men start, what appears to be a serious relationship ( boyfriend/girlfriend) with a woman, yet they have no intention to make a long-term future with her ( marriage)?
The answer was simple, but the rawness shocked me.
What was the answer?
Men like to have a steady source(s) of sex. And sorry to burst your bubble, but no matter what type of man you’re attracted to… he will always want to smash( have sex). When he finally falls in love( can’t see himself without you in his life), that’s the only time a man will see you beyond just something to smash( have sex with).
On average, men try to be as logical as they believe they can be.
They like to have steady sex available but they are often still on the prowl for that irresistible woman ( in their eyes).
Most men are aware of their options and freedom. They look at those options and compare their steady sex to the options.
If you want a man, you have got to think of how you can prove to him that you are his best choice.
So when he goes silent on you, intentionally start arguments with you or does a disappearing act, know he is exploring his options.
Men go to school and work interacting with new women everyday. You should interact with others too. You don’t need to follow through on options but you should be aware of your options.
Even when you become comfortable in what appears to be a serious relationship, there are no guarantees that you’ll walk down the aisle together.
But note, sometimes men give the silent treatment to put you to the test or mess with you to see where you stand with them.
Yes, just like women, men play mind games to figure out how you think. Men say they learned it from us [women].
Don’t get mad at him because he has options. You wouldn’t find him as attractive if he wasn’t in demand.
Although a man can have many options, being faithful is purely his choice. And no, all high value men do not cheat. It’s a personal choice.
Understand and accept that your man will always come cross temptation. It’s how he feels about you that will stop him or give him reason to be unfaithful.
Many women settle for stable commitment and care from a man they just aren’t attracted to anymore. Women do this until they can move onto the next.
When it boils down to it, men want steady, easy action from an attractive woman they love and trust to be faithful IDEALLY.
Women want steady commitment and care from a strong man they are attracted to and love who is high value IDEALLY.
Watch the actions and words of your partner to truly find out what type of man he is. Is this man a good fit for what you want long-term?
This is how you will know whether being in the picture is worth your time.
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